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RACIST Applebees Waitresses

Posted Fri February 2, 2007 5:18 pm, by Virginia P. written to Applebee's International, Inc.

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I would like to make a complaint regarding the Applebee's restaurant, in my neighborhood. Just recently, I decided to eat dinner at your establishment with my young children. Everything was normal initially, our orders were taken promptly after we were seated in a suitable location but that is where my praise ends. A group of five were seated down from us and I noticed they were being served a lot quicker than us. It got to the point where we had not even received our drinks and they had received all appetizers for five people. When we were eating appetizers, they were being served their main course and desserts. I asked the waitress why the discrepancy? We have less people at our table and I have hungry children, unlike them who were adults and can better hold their appetites. Plus, my children are picky eaters so I need more time to feed them as any mother knows. She promised that my food was coming soon, it was just being prepared. We had to wait five more minutes before even getting it, meanwhile the table down from us are busy chowing down and laughing. Well, I had the server watch my kids while I went to the restroom and thought one of the faces at the table look familiar. It turned out to be a leading member of a racialist hate group called You Don't Speak For Me. Please research this group to see the disgusting, traitor-like values that they believe in. I could hardly believe the favoritism being displayed but it did click because the waitress had been talking to that member the entire mealtime on and off. They were laughing, smiling having a great time, while I and my children were kept waiting. I did keep my composure and left with my children at that time, after paying, no tip. So Applebee's, please explain why hate group members get presidence over hard working Hispanic mothers.

If you want proof I do have a camera phone picture of the people at that table. I do like your food and service outside of this event which I hope was isolated. I know you would not want to be caught giving preference to these kind of people. I am posting this complaint to a website read by thousands upon thousands, but with an apology I will take it back. I hope you consider this.

Explanation of your favoritism, typed apology and free meals at Applebee (you can pick how many).


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by Khadija J. Posted Wed September 22, 2010 @ 7:02 PM

This happened to me in Dallas, TX at the Applebees in the airport. I'm
from India and my husband is white. My food was absolutely terrible, I
couldn't even eat it. I had to eat off my husbands plate. I thought
this was all coincidental. When the waitress saw me eating off his
plate, she started to laugh. She kept bringing his refill immediately
and "forgetting" mine. I asked her if she could refill my drink and
she just started laughing again and never came back with my drink. I'm
a great tipper and this waitress didn't get a cent. I'm so sorry, I
can understand how angry you must of felt, but just realize...these
people are just probably just miserable with their own lives and they
probably won't ever amount to much with beliefs like that in the 21st

by Sandra W. Posted Fri October 2, 2009 @ 10:15 PM

Sooo sorry that happen to you and your kids. My family and I (we are
African Americans) went to Applebee's Resturant today for lunch in
Florida. We also experience the same racist conduct with our
waitress. It took her 3 to 5 minutes to come by and take our
drink/food order. After, taking our orders. We notice when the white
people come it and be seated it takes 1 second. What's up with that!
We also notice they had overcharge a hispanic couple. Thank God they
caught it! We need to put a stop too this soon.

by Carina Posted Wed April 4, 2007 @ 11:13 AM

You had the waitress watch your children while you went to the

Here is an idea, if you're children aren't capable of watching
themselves, get take out and eat at home.

by Mike Holly Posted Sat March 3, 2007 @ 10:23 AM

if i walked into the applebees wearing a shirt saying i hate women, i
still have the right to be served.


by seanzilla Posted Wed February 21, 2007 @ 10:07 AM


Wow! That was some letter!

No doubt, you were angry about the situation. There seems to be a lot
of things that you perceived as "wrong" with the way you FELT you were
treated, but I don't think many will see it that way.

Unfortunately, you appear to believe that patronizing Applebees
somehow victimized you personally. Because you saw a representative of
a group that you cannot tolerate, this made it even worse. And the
fact that you had to wait (this is not a fast-food restaurant) somehow
you became rather intolerant of time? Hmmm....

I know how kids can be picky eaters, and how difficult they are to be
managed sometimes.

Having worked in restaurants for the better part of 14 years (in the
past) there were many times where an order for a table got in behind
another group. Now that the order slips are commonly computerized and
printed in the kitchen, the luxury of a wait staff person to place
their order manually is gone. Perhaps the waitress was juggling some
other things before being able to put in your order, fill your drinks,
appetizers, etc. You didn't appear to detail whether or not YOUR
server was the same as the other table's server. That may be cause for
some discrepancies here.

Asking for a server to watch your children is not their job, in any
capacity. I'm sorry, but I don't think that was right at all. Then,
despite service, you stiffed the waitress. May I ask why? Exactly how
long was it that you had to wait, or was it because someone else got
served first. Maybe your meals took more time than theirs did. Who
knows? But it appears that you were in a hurry because your kids were
hungry. I can understand, but it seems as though you're using this
"hunger" more as a tool for quick or special accommodating service.
Why is their hunger any more significant that someone else's? If
you're in charge, and it appears you are, then why did you wait until
they were too hungry to finally feed them? Clearly, this is no one
else's fault but yours. Sorry.

"So Applebee's, please explain why hate group members get precedence
over hard working Hispanic mothers." How would you propose that
Applebee's control this? There is no legal way that can bar patronage
by any group or affiliation because someone doesn't agree with it. I
dare say, if the KKK came into that restaurant robes and all, they
still have a right to get served. Now, I would think they'd end up
with a tainted burger, but that's beside the point. You appear more to
take issue with this groups political base behind the scenes, and
blame them for your delay. I really don't understand this, but it is
clear that you do not like them at all.

Really, this letter appears to be an irrational response to a common
situation. Tolerance is the key, and apparently you don't seem to
employ this for some reason. Once again, stiffing the waitress was an
inappropriate thing to do just because you didn't like that someone
else got served before you did. I've been in areas of the world where
kids are lucky to eat a full meal -- even once a day. Much less have
the luxury of going into a nice restaurant.

As a suggestion, maybe you should have asked for the manager to
address the situation at that time. It would have only taken a moment,
and more than likely, your meal would have been comped right then and
there. Taking it out on the waitress solely was not the right thing to

I'd love to hear what Applebee's does in response to this situation.



by Patch Posted Sun February 18, 2007 @ 9:09 PM

"We have less people at our table and I have hungry children, unlike
them who were adults and can better hold their appetites. Plus, my
children are picky eaters so I need more time to feed them as any
mother knows."

So you should get preferential treatment just because you have kids?
Having kids was your choice, so it's your responsibility to look after
them - if you want to take them to restaurants, make sure they know
how to wait patiently for their food. If your children are "picky
eaters", either feed them at home or teach them to stop being fussy
little brats. The rest of the world is not obliged to jump to
attention to help you just because you have children - being a mother
does not give you special rights. Neither you nor your kids are more
important than other adults, and acting self-entitled and hard-done-by
does not give you the right to free meals. If the staff were slow in
serving you, it was probably because you were rude and neglected your
kids - not because you are Hispanic.


by Sabrina Michelle Cook Posted Thu February 15, 2007 @ 4:46 PM

Any mother knows to insure she doesn't take her children out to eat
only when they're starving. If your children can't behave well-enough
to wait for food at a sit down restaurant, then maybe McDonald's is a
better choice for you.

Not to mention you had COMPLETE STRANGERS watch your children while
you went to the bathroom! What is wrong with you? If I had been your
waitress I would have seriously debated calling child welfare.

Yes, my parents took my siblings and I out to eat when we were little,
but we acted like little adults, and if we were ever out with only one
parent, and that parent had to use the bathroom, they took us with


I'm, not even sure about McD's by Rex Dart Eskimo Spy Sun February 18, 2007 @ 10:23 AM

RE: DFCS by ThatStupidGirl Wed February 21, 2007 @ 4:42 PM
by Stacy Garwood Posted Thu February 15, 2007 @ 4:29 AM

I agree with most of the comments left thus far. I can not believe
that she told the server to watch her kids. They are servers, not
babysitters. Plus I cant believe she would trust a complete stranger
with her children!
Not to mention that in a restaurant everyone has to take into
consideration who was there before and after being seated. Also that
not every table orders right away (they may sit and have cocktails
first). This lady is angry with the world it seems. She should
probably pay more attention to her kids and try to have fun with them,
rather than spying on the next table with a camera phone!


by Brad F Posted Wed February 14, 2007 @ 12:14 PM

The only Racist i see here is YOU. You believe that certain classes of
people should get preferential treatment such as not having to comply
with US immigrations laws.


by bedbugsmomma Posted Tue February 13, 2007 @ 11:08 AM

"Well, I had the server watch my kids while I went to the restroom"

You did what? LMFAO. You have some nerve.

by Davealicious Posted Tue February 13, 2007 @ 8:53 AM

Did you even look at these people's website? All they are advocating
is that everyone who wants to immigrate to the U.S.A. should do so
legally and learn the english language. How is this racist?


And if that's true... by ThatStupidGirl Wed February 21, 2007 @ 4:43 PM

by Carole Louthain Posted Mon February 12, 2007 @ 2:12 PM

Just to be fair, I went to the web site mentioned in your letter.
What a surprise to find folks that I totally agree with.....thank
you. I would have never known about them any other way.
If being racist is wanting people to obey our immigration laws, then,
yup, that's me.
I am so sick of the race card. I am white,whatever that means, and was
raised as white trash in a black ghetto and you know what....all of us
played together and didn't give our race a thought between us. We were
just all poor and trying to make do with what we had. A lot of us
don't live in the ghetto anymore, but we didn't get out by
stealing,social programs or whining racist at a restaurant. We
worked!! Now we are stuck with paying for people that expect
everything to be handed to them. Well a lot of us are getting old and
I wonder how they will support all these socialist programs after
we're dead?!
As for having the waitress watch your children, get real, you just
proved my point!


by Alex Taylor Posted Sun February 11, 2007 @ 1:45 AM

I'm too lazy to respond to all the problems in this letter, so I'll
just pick one.

Why is it that almost every complaint comes with the demand for free
stuff at the end? Asking for free food is just a bad idea. It makes it
sound like you wrote this letter in order to get free meals. If you
are really upset with Applebee's, then an apology should be good
enough for you.

by thatisashame Posted Sat February 10, 2007 @ 1:22 AM

You were a strong woman because i would have been left. They would
not have gotten my money at all-especially if they never gave me a


by C A Posted Fri February 9, 2007 @ 11:05 AM

I call shenanigans on this letter. Many of the references in this
letter are hot topics on this forum.

If by any chance it is true, the writer needs to seek professional
help immediately.


by friendofjimmyk Posted Fri February 9, 2007 @ 9:42 AM

Are you serious? I mean, really - are you serious?! Where to begin
with your letter...

"When we were eating appetizers, they were being served their main
course and desserts"

Is it possible that some of them were only eating desserts? You know,
not everyone goes to a restaurant and has a complete meal from app to
dessert in order. I eat out with large parties ALL THE TIME and there
are some of us who order pie while the rest of us order dinners and
then some order only appetizers. Ever consider that? No, probably

"Well, I had the server watch my kids while I went to the

Are you kidding me? This is not a servers job. I don't care. You take
your kids with you or you hold it! PERIOD! Servers are not paid to
babysit. I don't care how you slice this one.

"So Applebee's, please explain why hate group members get presidence
over hard working Hispanic mothers."

and ...

"If you want proof I do have a camera phone picture of the people at
that table. I do like your food and service outside of this event
which I hope was isolated. I know you would not want to be caught
giving preference to these kind of people"

Even though you don't agree with their opinion and what they stand
for, they have a right to believe the way they do. That's part of
being an American - freedom of choice, freedom of speech - even if you
don't agree with it - it's their right. It's their right to belong to
whatever group they wish and it's their right to patronize public
places. Now, if they were demonstrating at the restaurant, I do
believe they would probably need a permit, however, they were merely
eating. So, regardless of your feelings on what organization they
belong to, they have the right to be anywhere they wish.

And, pray tell, what kind of proof is a picture of people eating? Wow,
some proof. Were they sitting there with t-shirts on that would state
the organization they belong to? Were they sitting at the table in
robes and hoods? Yes or no? If not, then all you have is a possible
invasion of privacy that you committed by taking pictures of complete
strangers while they were eating.

by Mike Holly Posted Tue February 6, 2007 @ 10:43 PM

I think Virginia needs to see a psychiatrist! She thinks the whole
world is against her!


And how exactly are you any different? by Adorable Erik Wed February 7, 2007 @ 11:44 AM

Except he's cut from a WHITE cloth by RedheadWGlasses Wed February 7, 2007 @ 12:48 PM

Thanks, Red, for a nearly perfect spit-take! nt by Peregrina Thu February 8, 2007 @ 2:31 AM

lol by Lou Lou Fri February 23, 2007 @ 9:00 AM

by Mike Holly Posted Tue February 6, 2007 @ 10:16 PM

Keep this up and you can adios amigo to PFB, lady!


I doubt it by Courtney C Wed February 7, 2007 @ 1:59 AM

by mstendardo Posted Tue February 6, 2007 @ 9:26 PM

Get a life chica. You took a picture. Dios mio que pena!!!


by Erin M. Posted Tue February 6, 2007 @ 1:39 PM


Some people experience legitimate racism. It's sad and terrible. I
really hope you don't affect the response to true racism.

And, you really need to go back to that location and give your server
a big tip. YOU MADE HER WATCH YOUR KIDS and then screwed her over.

You suck.


forgot to breathe by Erin M. Fri February 16, 2007 @ 1:52 PM

by MommyG4 Posted Mon February 5, 2007 @ 11:16 PM

Honey, just give it up! Just because you are of a different
background doesn't mean that everyone is out ta getcha.


by Nayda Badillo Posted Mon February 5, 2007 @ 9:03 PM

oh gosh! where to begin!???

This is what? The 2nd time you go to a restaurant and call on the race
card?? Ay ay ay, mi'ja!

Everyone knows, here at planetfeedback, that I am Puerto Rican. I have
lived in the most "racist" places, according to statistics. However, I
can count on one hand (in my almost 50 years of life) the times that I
have felt that racism has been a factor in whatever event at that

Personally, I think you should get a life! Hopefully, far away from
the planet Earth! You MUST get educated! You are name-dropping
organisations and doing so inappropriately. You have no clue what
these organizations do and what they stand for!

Let me help you with this one! The group "Don't Speak for Me" is not..
let me repeat this.. NOT a hate group! My gosh, woman, please read
before allowing your foot-mouth disease flair up!

I would highly suggest that you stop going out to eat. That way you
avoid embarrassing yourself in public.

Also, please stop writing public letters! This only increases the
stereotypes that people have in their mind. It fuels the thoughts that
all hispanics are like you. God forbid! I struggle long and hard on a
daily basis to break such stereotypes! Then you come along and it all
goes down the drain!

If life is soo horrible for you, go back home! Although, I doubt they
want you there!

Ve a vivir con las cucarachas, es lo que te mereces!!


My Spanish is rustier than I thought, or this is a colloquialism that doesn't translate well by Peregrina Wed February 7, 2007 @ 10:43 PM

translation by Nayda Badillo Thu February 8, 2007 @ 9:09 AM
by Leigh Snyder Posted Mon February 5, 2007 @ 5:40 PM

I would say planetfeedback should cancel her account, but she'd cry


by travis wells Posted Mon February 5, 2007 @ 5:13 PM

Wow, have you been out to eat before? Did the other table have a
different server or the same? Did you consider the servers were
And who are you to say a damn thing when you had a server watch your
And, are you serious? Racialist? That's not a word. Also, i hate
predjudice as much as the next person, but they may eat wherever they
I was a waitress. I dislike customers like you. I would be glad if you
didn't come back.

by ehartsay Posted Mon February 5, 2007 @ 3:49 PM

Unless your children have such severe metabolic problems that they
might starve to death within an hour, their hunger is no more
important than anyone else's.

I can assure you that if *I* was that waitress whom you tricked into
being your free babysitter (NOT part of her job!!!) and then stiffed
on the tip,
you would PEE IN YOUR PANTS before I would EVER again watch your kids
while you went to the bathroom!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

by Tigger Posted Mon February 5, 2007 @ 3:19 PM

Yeah Virginia,

You have won the prize for getting the most responses to a totally
inane letter. However, it is beginning to slow down so please, in
utter sincerity post another one of your racist concerns so we can
keep the ball rolling.

Here is a tip if you want to get quicker service in the future.
Print out your posting to PFB, carry it with you at all times. When
you get seated in any restuarant provide the print out to your server
and warn them that they could be next. Trust me, you will see real
quick service to get you out of the door ASAP. I can not promise they
will not sp it in your food, but at least you will be served first.


by franese Posted Mon February 5, 2007 @ 1:36 PM

Virginia, is everyone racist to you . . .or is this just the way you
try to get free food?

By the way, I can't believe you left your kids with the waitress, and
then had the nerve not to tip her.

There are legitimate cases of racism/discrimination - but when someone
like you just uses it to try to get free food, it makes it that much
harder for people with real complaints.


I can't believe by tickytack Mon February 5, 2007 @ 2:49 PM

by tickytack Posted Mon February 5, 2007 @ 8:01 AM

OOOH! "TYPED" apology, no less.

My, my, aren't we fancy?

Give it up Virginia. If anyone is a racist, it's you.

by Applejacker Posted Mon February 5, 2007 @ 12:58 AM

I read your letter and was concerned about your situation
until..."free meals at Applebee (you can pick how many)..." It appears
you merely want free stuff, and use a "complaint" to get it. HONK!!
Letter dismissed. NEXT IN LINE PLEASE???


by Adorable Erik Posted Sun February 4, 2007 @ 10:50 PM

8:00am. Virginia's alarm rings out, waking her from her restful
slumber. "Racist!" she screams, as she slams her hand down hard upon

She stumbles down her hallway to the dining room. Tripping on a errant
toy left in the the walkway, she kicks at it and accuses it of being a
bigot. She pours a cup of coffee and attempts to retrieve the paper.
It is missing from her front step. Out into the morning, she cries
aloud, "You racist paperboy! This is because I'm a latino!"

Breakfast takes her longer than she had anticipated. She looks up and
sees she has little time left to get to work. She curses the clock for
discriminating against her because of her race. She hurriedly gets
ready and runs out the door.

"This is all everyone else's fault but mine," she mumbles to herself
as she starts her car. "Stupid racist world."


by coyoteugly59 Posted Sun February 4, 2007 @ 6:54 PM


I am disappointed at your disposition. Today we have too many
thinking everyone owe them something. Just reading your experience
makes me think that you are just complaining to be complaining. I
think you feel like your royalty and everyone is to stop at the drop
of a dime for you and your family. But this is the real world. We
all have our places. We all have responsibilities. Now, the issue I
feel that really needs to be address here is: (1) that of your
children. The Neglect of your children. Leaving them with the
waitress, that's your responsibility. If for some reason something
would have happen to your children you would have wanted to sue them,
right? So since when has waitresses or waiters become our
babysitters. They don't get paid to do this. Come On what were you
thinking, besides being jealous of another table. If your children
were cranky, then maybe you should taken them home for a nap or rested
them before going out. Having Children at your table is not an excuse
for quicker service. I believe it called first come first served. I
believe the as a mandated reporter I would have called DCFS myself.
See even not looking after your children yourself posses as sense of
abuse: Unfortunately, this can have an impact on the emotional,
behavioral, physical, and psychosocial well-being of the siblings and
can lead to feelings of resentment, anger, anxiety, depression,
jealousy, fear, and guilt.
(2) Which takes us to this level of counseling. You were problaby
sounding off in their presence. They felt your emotional unstable
stress. See what your teaching your children. They are to act the
same way thinking this is the most appropriate and mature way to
represent ourselves. What about a spouse/husband? Was he not present
to assist you? Being racist is the number one reason people suffer
today in the world. Why? Jealousy. It all started with Cain &
Able!! Jealousy gets you no where and it does not make for a good
friendship/relationship. If you are that stressed or torn I suggest
you seek professional help. We (the World and those in it) do not owe
you or anyone else for that matter a thing. We all have
responsibilites and we have to work hard for what we are to
accomplish, to become, or what we personally want out of life. We
make life what it is! Teach your children the values of quality
family time and quanity of being together. Teach them good morals
which excludes being racist or being jealous. The bible is a great
place to start. A family that prays together stays together. May you
continue to be blessed in all your efforts and keep a positive
attitude and a smile on your face.
Best Wishes,
A, Ph.D.


A Ph.D? by tickytack Mon February 5, 2007 @ 7:50 AM

Don't forget by Peregrina Mon February 5, 2007 @ 7:59 PM

who put a quarter in you? by Peter Ceccarelli Wed February 7, 2007 @ 4:25 PM

by RedheadWGlasses Posted Sun February 4, 2007 @ 3:16 PM

She is one person with one opinion here. She doesn't represent
Hispanics any more than I represent pasty white Irish people.

I say this mostly to the Hispanics here who cringe at these sorts of

Unfortunately, some people judge an entire group of people based
solely on the bad behavior of a small part of that group, when all
they have in common is the color of their skin.

Also, Virginia doesn't speak for all idiots, either. Just herself.


Woot for pasty white redheads! (n/t) by Aimeyir Wed February 7, 2007 @ 5:49 PM

What about pasty white blondes?... by C A Fri February 9, 2007 @ 11:09 AM

LOL! by Aimeyir Tue February 13, 2007 @ 12:51 AM

by rtjhkl tfkjl Posted Sun February 4, 2007 @ 1:39 PM

In response to my comment below:

...then again, she does claim "You Don't Speak For Me! are racist when
their website proves otherwise.

by rtjhkl tfkjl Posted Sun February 4, 2007 @ 1:33 PM

I've read Virginia's post about Burger King and posted 3 replies -
first one entirely negative, which I stand by, but on reading this
particular story, I can understand why Virginia saw it as racism. If
it happened to me, I would have wondered. Maybe it was, maybe it
wasn't, but there's certainly enough evidence to believe it was - just
not conclusive. So how about a bit of fair thinking peoples? :-)


What evidence? by Peregrina Sun February 4, 2007 @ 8:53 PM
by alie Posted Sun February 4, 2007 @ 9:01 AM

do u think that maybe they were seated way before you.possibly they
came in 15 minutes before you and thats why they got their food
faster? thats how food places work.


by Gino Posted Sun February 4, 2007 @ 1:20 AM

Virginia, I'm sorry, I simply don't believe you.


I just visited the website, Virginia, you don't speak for me IS
pro-hispanic and pro legal immigration, NOT a hate group. Threatening
that you have proof dosen't proove what you are claiming. It only
shows that five people were dining.

If the server hates you, it's not because of the color of your skin.

If I had to go to the restroom, I'd NEVER leave my children with a
server who's friendly with a hate group. NOT FOR ONE SECOND.

Even if this was true, which I doubt, it's not a policy issue of
Applebee's (or Burger King or any other establishment) because it's
against the law to have policies that condone racism.


by Peanut's Mom Posted Sat February 3, 2007 @ 11:27 PM

Wow. I had to count to 10 before I replied to this one.
I'm not usually this harsh.
Lady, you are a piece of work. Unless the waitress said to your face
"I am serving you slower because of your race", you have no proof of
any sort that race played any factor in your experience.
Grow up.
Trash is trash. Ain't got no color.

I still can't believe no one has called shananigans!

by penelope Posted Sat February 3, 2007 @ 11:06 PM

the race card again, and by another hispanic. i too am hispanic and it
is really disrespectful to see other hispanics have this immature and
completely ignorant belief.

first of all, maybe those people were served faster because they are
regulars. yes servers that have great tipping regualrs tend to give
them better service, i know i do all the time. i won't dismiss my
other tables, but sometimes we know what our regulars are having and
we can put the order in. maybe that is why their appetizers were at
the table before whatever it was you ordered. also you might have
ordered food that takes longer to cook than what they ordered; or
maybe your order was screwed up. if it was, the server should have
explained to you why was the food taking long. maybe she did but of
course you chose to leave it out of your letter.

second of all why in the world would you leave your kids with a
stranger. a server's job is not to baby sit your kids when you need to
go to the bathroom. you take your kids with you. that says a lot of
your parenting. second of all the fact that your children are picky
eaters doesn't mean anything as to why your food should arrive asap.
not every child is a picky eater, as every mom should know. so stop
trying to side with other mothers because you are not doing a good
job being one.

why do i say this because first you leave your kids unatteneded with a
stranger, then you decided to use your race card to get free stuff,
and then on top of that you brag that you stiffed your server. those
are the values that you are trying to teach your kids. too bad they
will grow up to be the kind of people we all criticize and can't
stand, just like you.


by olie Posted Sat February 3, 2007 @ 10:59 PM

Is it possible that the other party was at the bar first and ordered
from there? Then they went to sit at a table to eat? I've been in
restaurants where this happens often. People order while enjoying
their cocktails and sit when the first course is ready. I haven't
noticed when I've been at Applebee's, but I don't really pay
attention. In my city you can smoke only at the bar, so I'm guessing
people straggle in to meet their group, have a smoke and a drink or
two, order, and move to a table to eat.

It's not Applebee's fault that your kids were so hungry and can't
"hold their appetites". You're the one in charge of feeding them. If
it gets close to meal time, get them some crackers. Keep some in your
purse or car.
I realize that you didn't plan for such a wait, but it sounds like you
cut things too close.

Might it be possible that the laughing, chatting group at the table
seemed to be having a good time and the waitress got caught up in it?
They were sending out a positive vibe and the waitress reacted?

As others have pointed out, fun groups tend to tip better than
smaller, quieter groups. It pays for the waitress to be more
attentive to them. Many waitstaff can size up a party quickly and
figure out who will tip best. They can be wrong, of course, but many
have some type of radar. Bigger tippers, better service.

Maybe some members of this group are regulars at this Applebee's.
Again, the waitstaff knows what kind of tippers these are and will
provide stellar service to get the big tip and more repeat service.
Maybe a group member is the waitress's dad/uncle/neighbor/boss. Yes,
it would be nice for everyone to be treated as a favored relative and
receive stellar service. In real life, though, it doesn't always work
that way.

You don't mention how old your "young" children are or how they were
behaving. Both of these might have a bearing on your service. And
asking the waitress to "watch" them is uncalled for. What if another
party at Applebee's decided that YOU were receiving preferential
treatment because the waitress was watching your "spoiled brats"
instead of getting their appetizers? What if one child ran for the
door while the other poured milkshake all over a customer in the next
booth? Did you give the waitress permission to restrain your children
if necessary or to take a fork away from them if needed? Clearly, she
did an acceptable job of babysitting because you don't seem to have a
problem with her care of your kids. Nice work, not tipping someone
who KEPT YOUR KIDS SAFE in your absence. She will remember you next
time you show up!

It is possible that Applebee's staff doesn't recognize the people as
belonging to this particular group. Maybe staff doesn't find the
group to be offensive. Maybe they realize that Applebee's is in
business to serve food and not to judge its customers by their
political views.

Perhaps you should go to the grocery store and purchase food that you
can prepare at home.

by Mr. Mafia Posted Sat February 3, 2007 @ 7:49 PM

Come on now what is going on. I have a feeling we are having another
Tabitha, begging for free meals. Do you make it a prastice to cry
"racism" whenever things don't go your way, or are you just claiming
racism to get free food? You can contact the local La Raze and
Hispanic consumer advocacy groups all you want, but when they find out
that you are crying racism for every little thing they are not going
to take you seriously. It's people like you who cry racism for every
little thing that goes wrong that make people who are really
discrimated against told that they are making it up.

Also you seem to want special treatment. You seem to think that
because you are a mother with small children that you should get
served first and faster than other customers. You way you don't like
being discrimated against, but if it works in your favour you are all
for it.

Lastly, you claim that you are posting this to a website where
thousands and thousand's of people are reading the complaint, well I
don't think thousands of people are reading your letter, and if they
are they are certainly not believing your story. Infact they are
probably laughing at you because you claim racism so quickly. Also
you claim if you get an apology that you will take your words back
well, if they apologise to you than well this letter will still be up
there, and I bet you would not update us telling us that you got your

Also you want free meals, but you left no tip, I am doubt they would
welcome you back.

by lovescats Posted Sat February 3, 2007 @ 7:02 PM

Wow! She plays the race card AND the kid card? Given these reasons for
her alleged poor service Applebee's couldn't possibly take her
seriously even if she had a legitimate complaint.


Lol by Mr. Mafia Sat February 3, 2007 @ 7:50 PM

by GryphonsKeeper Posted Sat February 3, 2007 @ 6:43 PM

Typical race card "freebies for me entitlement queen"

You deserve nothing.

by makemine2 Posted Sat February 3, 2007 @ 5:43 PM

Breathe, take a chill pill, you and your children, hungry or not, are
not their only customers. Crap happens..........deal with it. Most
likely the cook messed up your order and started anew. Treat everyone
as you want to be treated.

by S W Posted Sat February 3, 2007 @ 5:25 PM

I won't even address the race issue here because it is obvious this OP
sees racism everywhere or choses to use it as an excuse whenever

I had a hard time getting past the part where you mention you asked
the server to watch your children. Ummmm, that was just a tad
inappropriate. Then you stiff her on a tip?

I think everyone here has been to a resturant and noticed that other
later arriving parties received their food first. Could be what was
ordered took longer than what the other table ordered, could be a
kitchen error, or it could be that you angered the waitress with your
sense of entitlement by asking her to mind your children. I doubt it
had anything to do with racism. Next time watch your own kids.

Oh, just because a group has different values from you and/or the
majority doesn't mean they aren't entitled to go to Applebee's and get
good service. From what you say, they weren't talking about racist
views in the resturant. They were there having dinner. You may not
like their politics, but they are as entitled to be there as you.


by Maelwys Posted Sat February 3, 2007 @ 4:43 PM

I don't even want to approach your subject matter, because your
grammar is so poor as to make me shudder. Few quick tips for next
1. "We have less people..."
No you don't. You, in fact, have 'fewer' people. 'Less' denotes an
ambigious amount, an inexact number. 'Less love', 'Less goodness',
'Fewer' denotes a specific numerical difference. 'Fewer chairs',
'fewer lobsters', etc.

2. "unlike them who were adults"
Ah, a classic problem. You have incorrectly used the object pronoun
'them' with the subject pronoun 'they'. In this case, the subject of
your sentence is 'they', and you then ascribe to them the predicate
'were adults'.

And a 3rd, for luck: "presidence"
I don't know everything, and this may very well be a word. I think the
word you were scrabbling for in the dim, dank recesses of your mind
was 'precedence', meaning 'coming before'. Judges say...*buzzer* No,
I'm sorry, that's incorrect.

Final thoughts on the matter:
Don't go spouting off on something without being able to coherently
form a sentence. Your words could be pure and genuine, but no one will
listen if they have to puzzle through a missive that a 3rd-grader
could write. Try again!

Oh, and in the event that English is not your first language (which it
may well not be), I'd like to mention that my grandmother emigrated
from France after the second World War at the age of 20, and managed
to pick up English so well that she taught it at the college level!
Wow, amazing how a little study can improve your ability to


Just a tip.... by monkey Sat February 3, 2007 @ 5:12 PM

Continued... by monkey Sat February 3, 2007 @ 5:21 PM

Because it's funny to watch you people scrabble like worms by Maelwys Fri February 9, 2007 @ 6:51 PM

*rolls eyes* by rtjhkl tfkjl Sun February 4, 2007 @ 1:36 PM

by Chris M Posted Sat February 3, 2007 @ 3:33 PM


Virginia, you seem to have an issue with what you believe to be
racism, when in fact it probably is not.

I am white. I have had bad service before at Applebees and other
places. I have also been shorted product in a drive-thru (following
up on your racist BK store). Are those people racist against me for
being white?!? Will any hiccup in customer service with you be
attributed to race??

You are digging in every case to try and pretend like it was racism,
when generally it is not.


by RedheadWGlasses Posted Sat February 3, 2007 @ 3:13 PM

Someone below, p d I think, informed us of who this "leading member"
is and what this "racialist [?] hate group" is all about. The group
was started by a guy who is an American of Mexican descent, and he got
tired of illegal aliens' speaking on his behalf.

Now, that sounds like a reasonable group to me. He isn't necessarily
anti-immigrant or even anti-illegal-immigrant. He just doesn't want
people to assume that all Mexicans/American-Mexicans have the same
political and socio-economic beliefs. Doesn't sound racist to me at

But who would be so offended by that group? An illegal immigrant,
perhaps? Virginia?


by RedheadWGlasses Posted Sat February 3, 2007 @ 2:40 PM

You are so full of it, Virginia.

You act offended that an allegedly local racist leader was allowed to
dine there. Hmmm you seem okay with selling out for free food, so I
guess it didn't bother you TOO much, eh?

And you don't mention that the group came at the same time as you,
after you, or before you. Let's see, they got their drinks first,
their appetizers first, their meals first. Maybe, oh, I don't know,
they arrived there first?

And I'll tell you something: I'll be DAMNED if a table gets served
before me SOLELY for the sake that there is a "hungry child" sitting

If you're a decent parent, you'll make sure they don't get to a
"famished" level of hunger and they'll cope.

I can't believe you didn't tip. Oh wait, yes I can. You're a spoiled
brat with major self-entitlement issues. Lord help your children.
They'll need intervention early on and often.


by eydieville Posted Sat February 3, 2007 @ 2:18 PM

oh god, the race card AGAIN! Here's a possible reason


I wasn't finished i hit the send key by mistake by eydieville Sat February 3, 2007 @ 2:27 PM

Plus.. by Harleycat Mon February 5, 2007 @ 3:28 PM

by trista Posted Sat February 3, 2007 @ 2:09 PM

If the service you received was really that much worse than the
service the other table received, could it not have more to do with
the fact that a table of five adults will generally tip better than a
table of one adult and two children? I mean, they will be ordering
more, possibly ordering drinks, and all five have the means to leave
even a small gratuity.

Maybe the waitress wasn't racist, maybe she was party-sizeist!



by Sarah H Posted Sat February 3, 2007 @ 1:28 PM

You think everyone's racist, huh? Burger King, Applebees, who's next
on your "give me a freebee" quest?


by drunkcommies Posted Sat February 3, 2007 @ 1:04 PM

Quit playing the race card. It just makes your complaint seem like
the paranoid ramblings of a member of the victim class who thinks the
world owes her something special. The cooks can't see what color you
are from back in the kitchen. The food you ordered may have taken
longer to cook, or your server may have been lousy at her job.

Hey, you're the nutcase who complained about the racism inherent in a
crooked chicken fry from Burger King, aren't you? Is this all you do
with your time? Just sit around writing letters about imagined racism
to get free meals? Get a job and get a life.

by andi_3k Posted Sat February 3, 2007 @ 12:00 PM

Are you an illegal alien Virginia? 'Cause that's the only reason Why I
can think of Anyone opposing the idea that immigration should be done
through leagal means, rather than by breaking the law.
You see rascim everywhere,,,grow up and learn what real racism
is....your rantings cheapen the experiances of the victims of real
racism- people of all 'races'
You deserve nothing from either restaurant except contempt. And you
desrve that from all of us too.


by A A Posted Sat February 3, 2007 @ 11:58 AM

This and the BK letter show the dangerous way some people throw around
the race card, and put other peoples' jobs and reputations in
It should be illegal for her to have kids.


by Aimeyir Posted Sat February 3, 2007 @ 11:46 AM

Also Re: RACIST Burger King Rude Employees letter

Someone please, PLEASE, take this woman's deck of race cards away from
her. She uses them too much.


You're right. by vc Sat February 3, 2007 @ 12:49 PM
by JuliePie Posted Sat February 3, 2007 @ 11:22 AM

You had the server watch your kids while you went to the restroom?!?!
She's not a babysitter, take them with you! And then you left her no
tip just because you're apparently paranoid. You are a piece of work,


Ah crap by Refreshed Amanda Sat February 3, 2007 @ 11:31 AM

I saw that as well. by Joalesh Sun February 4, 2007 @ 8:18 AM

by "The One and Only" MA Loper Posted Sat February 3, 2007 @ 10:18 AM


It seems to me that people who constantly insist that others are
racist are actually the ones who are racist themselves.

Jumping to conclusions, tossing around accusations of preferential
treatment for others and not for you and demanding freebies for
nothing is both disgusting and deplorable. You should be ashamed of
yourself and the example you are setting for your children.

Do us all a favor, stop wasting space on this website with your
sickening drivel. You singlehandedly are setting decent, upstanding
Hispanic citizens back 100's of years with your behavior and attitude.

by Juicy Jade Posted Sat February 3, 2007 @ 9:34 AM

Did the other people get there before you?

You seem to expect people to bend over backward for you just because
you are Hispanic. Can you ever just be happy? You seriously need a
reality check.

I have never worked in a restaurant before, but I do know that if I
had one table of people that were friendly and joking, I would talk to
them and joke around also. If the other table was a person that seemed
to have a chip on their shoulder from the get-go, they would still get
service, but I naturally would not joke with them. Have you ever
stopped to think that maybe you are the one with the problem?

You call yourself a "hardworking" Hispanic mother. I think the only
thing you work hard at is scamming restaurants for meals.


SPLURT! by tickytack Mon February 5, 2007 @ 8:11 AM

by Harleycat Posted Sat February 3, 2007 @ 9:02 AM

Stop making it difficult for people who have legitimate complaints
about racism to be heard. You do nothing to promote the hispanic
cause. All I see is someone trying to scam restaurants out of


by Posted Sat February 3, 2007 @ 8:58 AM

This woman is full of crap!!!

by freeby4me Posted Sat February 3, 2007 @ 8:11 AM

I think this woman should be banned from PFB for posting LIES and
"So Applebee's, please explain why hate group members get presidence
over hard working Hispanic mothers."
This type of attitude is probably why you got NO PRESIDENCE over
anyone. Its a PRIVATE ESTABLISHMENT, They can choose to serve WHOMEVER
they want and that includes kicking your nasty attitude out. GROW UP.
You're not setting good examples for your children.


by nick l Posted Sat February 3, 2007 @ 7:56 AM

So Virginia, please explain why you are such a race-baiter and why
it's okay for you to photograph patrons at a private establishment
(which I believe is against the law).

And please explain why you have nothing better to do than shake down
restaurants for freebies. First it was BK, now it's Applebees. Who's
going to be next?


by tater30 Posted Sat February 3, 2007 @ 7:50 AM

By the stubbing of my thumb, something stupid this way comes...


by Jeffrey Posted Sat February 3, 2007 @ 7:05 AM

Oh, dear.

Let's start off by saying that racism is a horrible scourge on our
society. Few would justify it.


This is the second letter you've written about racism being the reason
for "not-as-you'd-like" service (or, in the case of the chicken fries,
a product). While 2 does not necessarily make a pattern, it suggests
that you're someone that MIGHT attribute anything negative to racism.

In this particular case, the race of the "leading member" is the same
as you. While you can say that "You Don't Speak For Me" is a "hate"
group, they aren't racist in the sense that they, as far as I can
tell, aren't anti any race. Unless they're anti-white or anti-black
or something. But they are NOT anti-Hispanic. They simply have a
specific set of beliefs on issues facing the Hispanic community (of
which some of them are part).

So, you'd better check yourself because your ignorance is showing.

That said, I'd like to ask that you post a comment here with a link to
these pictures. I'd love to see some pictures of people eating at
Applebees. Can I assume that these are pictures of Col. Rodriguez,
Ms. Davies, Ms. Spencer, Mr. Rangel, or Ms. Chojnowski? Where can I
verify that your picture is of an actual member and not just some
random person out to eat?

There are several free picture hosting services (Google "free photo
hosting") if you don't know one.

As for the specific issue you faced... I'm white. I've seen other
white people served before me. By wait staff that are white. And
black. And Hispanic. And Asian.


You know what...

I don't buy this. This is clearly a joke. The grab for freebies is a
tip of that this is NOT about racism. It's about someone making fun
of racism. Or someone that's so selfish that they'll use the subject
of racism to get free meals. That, in my opinion, is worse than being
a racist. Abusing race in order to get meals? Yes, Virginia, I mean

Does anyone find it strange that Dora has left and has been replaces
by Virginia? Connection?


Nah.... by Rex Dart Eskimo Spy Sun February 18, 2007 @ 10:19 AM

by Refreshed Amanda Posted Sat February 3, 2007 @ 4:33 AM

you lady, are crazy. Isnt taking pic with a camera phone of unknowing
people wring in a few states? How should the aitress know if someone
is a leader of a hate group? Just wondering.

At denny's it's FIFO (First in first out), and other laces, better
places, it's whatever food is done first. Even consider it was your
picky kids fault your food took longer? Maybe the cooks got it wrong
and it had to be redone. Just an idea from experience.

Before you throw the race card out (Because we all just LOVE the race
card) speak to a manager instead of shooting off a corporate letter.

My ex husband is hispanic...why didhim and I never get bad service
ANYWHERE, except maybe on a BUSY weekend night when he server was
running around like crazy.

You amaze me lady, and this isn't the the happy pills the doc
prescribed me talking... yo uare just plain crazy.


She needs one of your happy pills by >Leanne< Sat February 3, 2007 @ 8:47 AM

Nope Nope Nope by Refreshed Amanda Sat February 3, 2007 @ 11:28 AM

by Courtney C Posted Sat February 3, 2007 @ 1:56 AM

This lady is beyond pathetic. I don't even have anything remotely
amusing to say; I'm so disgusted by her.


by vc Posted Sat February 3, 2007 @ 12:18 AM

I didn't realize this was the limp chicken fry lady.


There Ain't No Such Thing As A Free Lunch.

Unless of course your chicken fry needs Viagra or your restaraunt
serves opposing political views.

This lady is a waste of bandwidth.

by Cass Posted Fri February 2, 2007 @ 11:03 PM

that it might have taken longer to prepare your meals because they
were making sure that everything on your plate was uniformly sized and
shaped? Surely Applebees doesn't want a Burger King misshapen chicken
fries scandal on their hands!

You really need to find something better to do than scam restaurants
for freebies.


by Peregrina Posted Fri February 2, 2007 @ 10:45 PM

So, what you are saying is that only those people that you approve of
should be served their food? Only hard working mothers or people whose
political or social leanings fit into your narrow minded view of the

I don't know who or what this group is and frankly, I don't care. I
grew up in an area where the KKK has a definite presence and while I
do not agree in any way, form or fashion with their politics or the
means they use to achieve their goals, I don't see why it is anyone's
business where they eat or where they shop.

Unless the waitress ignored you to serve the other table or
deliberately stiffed you when it came to food or drink refills, you
are blowing smoke out of your narrowminded, bigoted hindquarters.

I'm not saying racism or profiling does not exist, it does to the
shame of us all, but you are seeing shadows where they don't exist and
are, in fact, making it more difficult for all of us to create a world
where our children will be able to live free and equal and beholden to
no one.


What Peregrina said. n/t by calm Fri February 2, 2007 @ 10:54 PM
by p d Posted Fri February 2, 2007 @ 7:01 PM

Oh, my God.

First the free meals at Burger King for a misshaped french fry now

Stop playing the race card. You're pathetic.


You Don't Speak For Me by p d Fri February 2, 2007 @ 7:06 PM

What? by monkey Sat February 3, 2007 @ 5:22 PM

by PaintedLady Posted Fri February 2, 2007 @ 6:35 PM

First Burger King, and now Applebee's? I feel sorry for you, you are
so determined that everyone is slighting you because of your race.
Did you ever consider that your appetizers took longer to prepare
because of what you ordered? Since you explain that it takes your
picky children longer to eat, I suppose your receiving your main
course after the other party was actually a benefit, as it gave you
longer to get them to finish them before their meals arrived. The
other table may have known the waitress, or may have just been
friendly and joking with her- is that not allowed just because you are
dining there? I suggest you see a surgeon about removing that chip on
your shoulder, and stop throwing out the race card to scam free meals.


by vc Posted Fri February 2, 2007 @ 6:07 PM

I googled the aforementioned party. They are also Hispanic. How did
the waitress decide which Hispanic to be racist against?

Also, since when is it ok to discriminate against someone based on
their geo-political leanings. Apparently, it is not ok to "profile"
you, but it is well within your rights to restrict the free
association of others.

While you probably shouldn't have had to wait as long as you did,
whipping out the race card is excessive and nonsensical. Applebees
owes about zero free meals. Give or take zero.


You forgot to carry the zero... by DragonflygrrlTheGreat Fri February 2, 2007 @ 8:01 PM

stupid new math by vc Sat February 3, 2007 @ 12:04 AM

Quitcher whining... by DragonflygrrlTheGreat Sat February 3, 2007 @ 6:09 PM

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