Lois,
A little patience would go along way.
As you state "I said I want a Whopper with no pickles, no ohions, no cheese, and no French fries. "
Leave out telling them about the fries until they have your burger order personalized for you.
Also, considering the problems you and your family members have with your orders you might review your whole approach to ordering or maybe submit your order in writing.
Your jab at the associates' intelligence is a low water mark in letter writing.
No Soup for you!!!!!
Bill R.