Re: Not a relaxing cup of coffee
by mary jo - Posted Wed December 12, 2007 @ 11:46 AM
There are a lot of holes here.
First off you say "the less than full dining room". Then you say "the two other mothers in the dining room didn't appear disturbed"
It seems like you are trying to say that the only other people in the building were the two other customers who were also mothers. But "less than full" is misleading. It could mean there was ONE empty seat in the room. Or it could mean that you and the other two mothers were the only customers in the store. I think you should have clarified here. If it WAS just the other two mothers then your complaint about the employees telling you to leave is a little different. Because, yes, MOST mothers understand fussy babies and it doesnt bother them TOO much.
Did the other women there have children with them or did you just assume they were mothers?
I think it was rude of you to make a comment about their conversation. If you were so close then what were they talking about? Was it work related? If it was, they had every right to be discussing it. I worked retail for a very long time and sometimes you have to discuss certain things in front of customers because there just isnt time to do it somewhere else. And sometimes you have to keep them waiting for a few minutes. If they were talking about that they were doing that night or whatever then thats a different story.
However, one rude gesture deserves another I suppose. But technically I bet they have the right to ask you to leave if you or your children are being loud.
A child's screaming, fussing, crying, ect. is all relative. The mother rarely is affected by the same way strangers are because you are used to it. Even the other mothers there might have been annoyed by your child's carrying on.
I am a mother to one and the aunt to 7. And trust me when I tell you that other people's children drive me INSANE! I can deal with my child crying. I can deal with my newest nephew crying. I can NOT deal with other people's children crying. Especially in a place they shouldnt really be.
The last time I was in Starbucks with my 8 year old son and my then 1 and a half year old nephew something similar happend. It was actually my son's idea to go there since he loves the organic milk they sell. Thankfully I have since found them at Walmart.
When I first got there there was maybe to other people in the place. A little while later the place was packed with a line to the door. It was about this time that my nephew started getting antsy and wanted to run around and make a lot of noise. Being that I respect other people and dont want to be rude, I packed our stuff up and took them outside to walk around until we felt like leaving. They enjoyed that better anyway.
I think that the employees probably were out of line telling you what they did but they might have gotten complaints from other people about your child.
Frankly, I dont think you deserve anything except an awareness of those around you.