and all the other patrons had expectations for a pleasant dining experience without a bunch of kids going ape.

You may be used to your children's behavior, but rest assured the patrons in the restaurant are not. Maybe you should take the Pampers gang to Chuck E Cheese next time.

I would have asked to be moved away from your table if you had descended on my area of the restaurant.

Your complaints regarding wait times are unfounded, because those waits are normal. You make it sound like you had the bridge club out, ("my guests") but half your group was 6 and under.