i think i deserve to be treated the way i treat others. when i am at wal mart, i smile at the cashier, i say "hi, how are you?" i take the bags from the wheel as she/he fills them and put them in my cart. i say "thank you." if they don't treat me as nicely as i treat them, i ask if there is a problem. if i still am not being treated nicely, i ask for a manager. this has only happened once, most people are nice. and i totally agree with this one tenet: if you are going to live in a country, learn the language. i would not dream of living in france without learning french. france is under no obligation to adjust to me, i am under obligation to adjust to them, as it is their country.