I love making my husband sweat for Valentines Day. I think the holiday is one of the biggest jokes, but it's still fun and as long as a little effort is made I'm always a happy girl.

What sucks is when you're husband actually goes out of his way to buy you a cute gift and plans a nice dinner somewhere super special with reservations, linen napkins, wine...the works and still manages to fail at the romance.

Next time, plan your trip closer to home and not 75 miles away no matter how pretty Ojai, CA is, unless you're planning on spending the night. A long drive back, stuck in traffic with a failing car and a tipsy wife is not a good place to be. By the time we got home I was no longer tipsy, but exhausted, stressed and with a slight headache. Not a fun way to end the evening.

Thankfully my husband isn't silly enough to think that a nice gift and expensive dinner will get you anywhere in the first place. That's not the kind of reward system I like to encourage, but HELL girls have needs too dang it!

Here's a question I've been asking myself though. If I'm not the wine'em and dine'em kind of girl then what kind of girl am I? When my husband asks me what kind of romantic things I like to do I give the same response most girls give. A walk in the park or beach, candle lit dinner, a little dancing...big maybe on the dancing. Truly though, none of those things END in Romance in my head. How do you find what works on days like this and every other day?