"I was not treated like the Mother's Day Queen of the night."

Right off the bat, I would say you would be the one with the attitude. Based on the sentence, I feel you expected the staff to be your "servants" for the day.

Over the years, I have learned that steakhouses have different definitions of doneness. In some restaurants, I have learned their medium rare is perfect for me while in others medium is what I have to order. I have seen steak houses defining how medium and medium rare are cooked. Was this done for you or listed on the menu.