Your not military you don't deserve any discount. You are not the one sacrificing in Iraq. You did not go through basic training. You are not the one going through the bullcrap of the military everyday.
I was active duty military. I hate to give all military wives a bad name, but the majority of them complain all the time, put their noses in every's business, don't work, do nothing all day and complain about what everyone does not do for them, nothing is ever good enough for them when in reality they are worthless and don't deserve anything.
The only thing you did was marry a military man that doesn't entitle you to anything. You got a lot of nerve complaining when you have the freedom to go to IHOP when your husband doesn't, but he is protecting your freedom to go to IHOP. You sound like a typical military wife that thinks everyone owes you. You will be better off when you realize that nobody owes you, we owe your husband!