Your employee touched me.

Sounds like a scam artist to me. Looking for a tag in a shirt does
not sound like "fondling" to me. Is this a man or woman? This is a
goofy frivilous complaint.

Did you have to pay extra for that?

"uncomfortable and slightly ashamed"....hmm....but not angry? I dont
know about anyone else, but I dont allow anyone to enter my personal
space without my permission. The fact that you LET someone do this and
left without saying anything to anyone is pretty sketchy for one, and
two, if it did happen, then you have bigger issues to deal with on why
you let this person do that you.

Troll.

Why did you not contact the store manager and then the police? I am
sure the whole incident was caught on video tape.

If I were inappropriately touched by an employee, I would immediately
complain to a manager - not ask for "freebies".

And Justin, oversized people don't wear "medium" - you might want to
get your facts straight when you're trying to scam a company for
feebies.

...all the freakin' hilarious comments to this letter.

If this employee thinks he needs to be touching you and bothering you
after you've asked him to leave, split his lip open. Most everyone
understands the quick, universal language of a punch in the jaw.
He'll go away.

In your case, I think you should thank goodness you weren't looking
for jeans!!! ;)

question for you: how many shirts will it take to erase the tremendous
trauma that you suffered? One shirt? Two shirts? How many? Three
shirts and one gift card?

ugh!

Can I have the exact address of this store?

I could use a good fondle...its been awhile.

The only part of this letter that I believe is the "touched" part. I
believe that this person is touched! Such an incident, if it truly
happened,would surely have been captured on the stores security
cameras and could easily have been verified immediately.Now there is
no proof whatsoever excepting your word about the alleged
incident.Methinks I smell a scam.Are you related to the person that
found the hair in her Subway sandwich?

I have some questions:

1.) Did you assume he worked at target because he wore a red shirt?
(was he even an employee?)

2.) Are you sure this employee was not someone who is mentally
challenged, because target hires people like that to do tasks such as
car collecting and re-stocking. From what went on, I feel pretty
strongly that this person was indeed mentally challenged.

He looked kinda nice and so I said I "I'm a medium"
When he reached he held me tight
And when he touched my neck that night
All the lights were shining bright
And then he touched me.

Personally, it sounds like this person actually enjoyed the "fondling"
to me.....gimmeoinke personified....

So, what denominations do Molestation Giftcards come in?

then just turn away.
Leave me as you found me,
sized not as you see but as I say.

Here's my view of this...

On the subject of "oversized" and medium: I have always worn XL no
matter how small I was (which at my smallest I was only a medium).
Say he would need a small to actually fit him but he would rather have
a medium.

On the subject of touching: While I am touchy feely with my friends
(mind out of the gutter you pervs), I am very uncomfortable with a
stranger touching me. I don't like it if they touch my arm. I don't
like to shake hands with a stranger to be honest with you. And I
certainly wouldn't like a stranger to touch my neck. Now I doubt the
validity of the letter. The writer seems to be a little... on the odd
side judging by his other letter and his overt concern for free swag.
However this brings up a very good issue for ALL public places and ALL
people. What you see as normal societal contact could be embarrassing
to another person.

This letter COULD happened. When I worked retail I was more than
willing to push a customer along if it was closing time and I needed
to straighten whatever it was they were rummaging through. I could
see an associate trying to "help" a customer find the right size and
if they had an overzealous personality they just may be brazen enough
to check someone's tag for them.

While this writer's credibility has been shot, the situation itself is
more than possible.

This letter touched me, man. It touched me deep down inside.

Who can I complain to about that?

When I saw the title of this letter, for some reason I was thinking
"touched" such as inspired or something.

Justin, you are an excellent creative writer. I think you could write
some really funny stories. But I think this letter slightly misses
that target.

Also, I hardly think you were "fondled". If he did the "old
reacharound" he would have touched you somewhere completely different!

Looks like it might be vc's best way of getting lucky in the new year.

By the way,since he was so close to you in his red shirt......what was
on his name badge?? He was certainly close enough to see that right?

No way. To begin with,since it was Xmas time as you stated,there is
no way that you got one on one help from a salesperson. Especially, in
Target or any other store for that matter. Most staff is on the
registers or stocking the store. I was in retail for years and unless
you were in a very upscaled store, you would only have gotten some
personal attention if you were shoplifting!!!!

I agree with all of the other posters.

If this had happened to me I would have spoken with a manager on duty
right away.

But to address the "oversize" question that other posters have, maybe
he's a little person. Or maybe he is a short, skinny guy and he meant
he was looking for an oversized sweater and M is oversized for him. I
think he just worded that sentence badly.

:)

You had me until you wanted them to send you things.

Because you are an oversized person, but you told him you are a
medium.

He probably was very confused, and so he thought he'd help you figure
it out. Why let you go home with something that will end up at the
returns desk with an irate customer attached to it?

As to whatever else you thought went on, I am fairly confident it was
incidental. Unless you believe you are so attractive that even though
you were declining his "advances" he just wanted to cop a feel
anyway.

By the way, you need to educate yourself a little more about shopping
online. It is safe if you do it correctly.

I've read all the answers and some of you caught some things and
pointed them out -- I guess I should have read the letter better, eh?

Liar liar pants on fire
Hanging by a telephone wire

I haven't read any responses. I'm expecting to find them split as to
supporting this letter.

I am a person who does not hug. I do when I have to but I don't like
it. My friends hug -- they usually let me off the hook. If a
stranger invaded my personal space as happened to you, I'd probably
get pretty vocal and pretty verbal.

I have to say, Justin, my first instinct is to tell you, "You should
have spoken with a manager right away," or something like that. But I
can imagine being so shaken or irate that you just want to get the
hell out of there. Then you go home, try to forget about it, but over
time, it still bugs you, and you're a bit embarrassed about the whole
thing so you don't want to go to the store to talk with the manager,
so you send in a complaint via this medium.

I can totally imagine that happening.

The demand at the end for compensation was the only Eff up. Too bad.

I'm torn about this letter. I was with the OP until the gimme grab at
the end, but there is still a valid complaint here.

I hate being touched by strangers. When I worked at the fabric store,
it was not unusual for me to move to the other side of the cutting
table (and it wasn't a small table) to avoid having customers touch
me. No joke, one time I threatened a customer with my scissors because
he would not back off and another time I yelled at a female customer
who kept moving closer even after I kept moving back.

In restuarants, more than once I've 'fondled' my knife or fork in an
unspoken threat to touchy waitstaff. (I usually go the unspoken route
because to speak up is to leave oneself open for ridicule. It's
amazing the assinine things people will say when I tell them not to
touch me. I've actually had total strangers (!) ask me if I was abused
or molested, hence my dislike of being touched. No, I just don't like
strangers touching me.)

That being said, in the situation the OP describes, I would have been
quite vocal in my requests for the clerk to back off. I also would
have told the manager before I left the store.

One last thing though, since when is M 'oversized'?

What I am saying is THIS IS NOT A CASE OF IT!

Incidentally, I used to work in a job where I was SERIOUSLY sexually
harrassed - it was to the point where I made it a point of not ever
allowing myself to be in the store (it was a weekend job) alone with
the owner because I would be grabbed and fondled against my will. He
would say "you're my mistress, aren't you?" while trying to grab at
me, rub up against me and drag me into the back where no customers
could see. I told my friends, but no one else.

I NEVER REPORTED IT BECAUSE I WAS SCARED TO.

And I should have because it was seriously upsetting and frightening
and I eventually quit (no serious loss; I had a real job to fall back
on but needed the money from the second).

So don't give me this bullshit that I'm "stupid, bigoted and
insensitive". I am saying simply that a) I do NOT believe this
incident ever happened; b) the OP could and should have reported the
ASSAULT to the manager at once (come on, are you seriously going to
sit there and tell me that in the middle of a TARGET he was seriously
in physical danger from the employee?).

You are taking a minor incident - albeitly annoying, if it did,
indeed, happen, and turning it into a major incident which it wasn't,
and I am VERY sure those who have actually been sexually assaulted
and/or harrassed (the latter of which, as I mentioned, I have been)
would not appreciate you making the comparison.

In this case it would seem you would be the ignorant one.

The issue here is not whether a true victim could report an assault
after the fact. No one is disputing that s/he could. The real issue
here is why the OP is writing a rather silly letter to corporate
headquarters rather than having had taken the time to seek out the
manager and point out the offending employee at the time of the oh, so
scary tag grab.

YOU are comparing this to rape and sexual harrassment. THAT is going
too far. This isn't it.

And incidentally, I defy you to post where I ever called anyone a
"baby".

I doubt very much that he "FONDLED" your neck. I think he may have
inadvertently touched your neck as he was reaching for the tag.

Do I think the clerk behaved unprofessionally? Yes.
He obviously has a lot to learn about boundaries, personal space and
comfort zones, especially if he is trying to make a sale. It's usually
best not to make the customer feel uncomfortable or as if they have
been violated in some way.

I just wonder at your almost homophobic attitude. If it had been a
female clerk, would we be reading this letter?
Or, is it even homophobia. Perhaps you are a gay male, or perhaps the
sex of the clerk was irrelevant. I don't know, as you are a perfect
stranger to me.
I only have your letter.

I just think it's ridiculous to make claims like this, smudging the
reputation of a clerk that you don't even know, or even dirtying the
name of a business, just for the sake of a few free shirts.

I didn't see anyone post this, but...

Take a look at the OP's other post today @
http://www.planetfeedback.com/index.php?level2=blog_viewpost&topic_id=
295100

In this letter, he refers to himself as a "bed buddy" and it includes
the quote "No, no, I will not let you into my superman sheets."

Whoa. Deja vu.

This exact thing happened to me once. Except I wasn't at Target. It
was more of a "gentleman's club" and I was just trying to see what
size bikini top a girl had. That's all, I wasn't fondling her, I
swear.

I think the lifetime ban was a little extreme however.

Oh...I wish someone would fondle my neck.




ROFL!



This is sick. Besides there being far too many adjectives in this
letter to take is seriously, there are too many things that I just
flat out dont believe.

I dont believe anyone fondled your neck. How DOES someone fondle a
neck anyway.

Maybe you were giving him some kind of mixed signals. Maybe he thought
you wanted him to fondle your neck.

Your letter is so far over the top that no one will take it seriously.


I certainly dont.

How sad. Every little innocent thing rises to the need for free stuff.
Not only that, but it sullies people who REALLY get fondled and find
the courage to come forth.

Justin, I suggest you drop the Mossimo Shirt and run, don't walk,
RUN!!!! to the nearest police station and file a report. The earlier
you do it, the fresher the ahem "facts" are in your mind and this
neck fondler will be taken off the street. Think of all the others
you'll save from the same treatment!!!!

I don't believe you for one second. Get a job and buy your own
clothes! And remember to read Target's return policy----you lie about
them and they don't want you to return.

You know, with most people, it's very difficult to find out exactly
how much their pride is worth to them. But with you, it's simple.
Apparently your pride is worth the cost of some nice shirts, or gift
cards so you can do your shopping online without a credit card.

Oh please you had a valid complaint until you asked for freebies.
Also there points number 2 and 3 are the same.

Maybe he wanted to ensure that you were purchasing the correct size so
that you wouldn't have to return it (sans receipt, of course), and
write a letter complaining about their return policy.

Y'know, I almost believed you, not that he was trying to fondle you,
but that you just ran into a very pushy employee, until the gimmee
grab.

If this really happened, you should have been WAY firmer with the
employee. Tell him "take your hands off me". If he does not, YOU
remove his hands from you. Then you speak to the store manager - right
then, right there, point out the employee and tell the manager what
happened. What do you think they can do about it now, since you don't
have any identifying information to let them know who it was?

Hey, maybe Target's idea of "some nice shirts" will be those red
shirts their henchmen wear, and they'll send you a couple of those!

Are you related to Dora Edwards???

". . . send me some nice shirts, or gift cards . . ."

Yeah - - right - - I don't believe a word of this one. What did the
manager say when you brought this situation to his or her attention?
And I do think that your request is asking too much.

While I don't believe he actually 'fondled' your neck, I do believe he
crossed a line by having to physically check your tag to satisfy his
own curiousity. It's none of his business what size you are currently
wearing and if he needed to see, he should have asked you if he could
take a look. At that point you could have told him no. But he didn't
give you that opportunity as he just took a liberty and I can see you
feeling violated. If you were a woman and it was a larger size for
example, that would be crossing an additional line of privacy and
cause for embarrassment. Which, in fact, is why many women do cut the
tags from their clothing! But also tags are annoying anyway. He had
no right to pass judgement on whether or not you keep them in there or
not.

Justin, I can appreciate your concern. In this day and age, things are
just . . . weird.

However, unless this guy has a neck fetiish, I doubt he meant anything
by it.

I think that a few things were misread here. Are you sure that the tag
comment was meant to be an accusation?

He gave you some good advice. He told you that you should not cut the
tags out of your clothing lest you forget what size you wear. You are
not perfect; you might forget, I know I do. I doubt he was accusing
you of lying about your size.

I think this whole situation has been blown out of proportion. The
employee was trying to help you; he was not "touching you
innapropriately." I highly doubt you will get your freebies.

I don't believe any of this for one second.

Yeah, okay, whatever.

The employee touched you inappropriately, and instead of notifying the
manager or the police about it, you just posted a letter on PFB
demanding freebies.

I totally believe you...NOT

Since when is "oversized needs" equal to a medium. Yes, he should not
have looked for your shirt size but I would hardly call that
"fondling". Did he give you a little massage to?

Asking for some nice shirts or gift cards is just greedy. You should
have addressed this issue right then and there with the manager. At
this point, Target doesn't even know what employee you are talking
about.

Calling the employee a "red shirted henchman", that's just rude. I
agree with Ticky, this just reeks of shenanigans.

"HOWEVER, one of your red shirted henchmen insisted upon helping me
with this seemingly mundane task"

That doesn't really narrow it down all that much. Did this employee
have a name tag on? What date did the incident occur? What time did
the incident occur?

With all due respect, Justin, the next time someone places their hands
on you in an inappropriate manner, you need to walk away. Your self
respect is worth much more than that sweater.

{A fancy Mossimo sweater caught my eye, and I began searching for the
color/size combination most suitable to my oversized needs.}
You said that, above, then told the clerk you wore a medium???
If you are truly "oversized", then the clerk was looking because he,
obviously, thought you were lying.

Now... What did the manager say about your being "fondled"? You DID
approach the manager, right? Someone touches you inappropriately, you
either deck'em, call the police, or take it up with the manager.

"I would like you to send me some nice shirts, or gift cards so I can
do my shopping online without a credit card"

You're joking, right?

Please tell me you're joking.

What utter greed.

If you were inappropriately touched, may I ask why you didn't go
directly to the service desk and ask for a manager?

This is my first of the day, but here goes: SHENANIGANS.

"I wear a size medium, I would like you to send me some nice shirts,
or gift cards so I can do my shopping online without a credit card.

I do not think this is asking too much. I was inappropriately touched
by an employee."

Ah, this is why you didn't get the store manager involved and why you
don't want to use your credit card. FREEBIES.

If this happened as described (and I have no reason to doubt that it
did), it seems that this person has crossed the line. While I don't,
personally, think this is at the level of "inappropriate touching" or
"fondling," it's still over-the-line behavior.

This is, absolutely, a matter to be raised immediately to the manager
on duty.

As for your issue on online credit card use...

Personally, I think your fears are misplaced. What makes you think
that when you slip your credit card into the little slot that your
information is safe? Ever HAND your card to someone?

If you've ever given your card to a waiter, who took the card away,
you're at risk. As much as purchasing online.

And, given that you have no liability for fraudulent use of your card,
you have little to worry about. Unless you're also revealing your SSN
or something else that would lead to identity theft, you're fine.

Don't worry about it. Shop online.