terrible service!

I can't comment on the OP, but I've known several young, educated,
professional, attractive people who got sick of all the loosey goosies
at the bar and decided to use online dating successfully. No need for
you to be all judge judy about it.

N/m

Sir, it sounds to me that you are a busy guy that wants results. You
work hard and have difficulty meeting, and/or spending the time
nurturing a friendship or relationship. These things take time and
patience. Look to other means to meet people, rather then a site. If
you have the time (you could make it)try the volunteer route.I have
met amazing folks at "Habitat for Humanity" to name one. Lots of
committed, successful women, who have solid values and a dream! All
the best.

I can't believe you need to pay a dating service to meet women, you
seem so sweet and sincere judging from this letter.

The problem is... they cannot force women to date you.

Even if they dress up your profile it doesn't mean other members are
going to want to be with you.

It could be the profile write up, the photo, or what you're looking
for.... there's no way you can guarantee that another person is going
to say "yes".

Has it occurred to you that the people viewing your profile might have
been turned off by your attitude? When I see something along the lines
of no 'fat/ugly/heritage indifferent' women need apply, I would be
making tracks in the opposite direction, both in real life and online.
Life is too short for hate.

Also, does 'heritage indifferent' mean what I think it does? Because
dude, it's the 21st century, get over yourself.

but these online sites are not the end all be all for dating. They
really work best when you are just using them as a means to meeting
new people and expanding your social skills.

It sounds like you may be putting a little too much into letting the
site do the work for you. And as Red pointed out, you may be a little
too rushed if you aren't getting responses back after asking to meet
in person. People are cautious these days (esp. women) and meeting
total strangers after talking online has to be handled slowly and
carefully.

If you are literally sitting and waiting for the site to match you
with the girl of your dreams based on an online profile and nothing
more, you're not gonna be happy with the results.

It isn't baiting that some members aren't paying customers, but they
do pad their memberships by letting people register and then placing
them with both paid and non-paid members (and they never tell you
which ones are which).

I never used Match, but I did try eHarmony, Yahoo Singles and a number
of free sites like Plenty of Fish and OKCupid. You may want to try
these free sites first, or sign up for eHarmony and use the cheap
first month and then cancel the subscription, but leave your profile
active, checking back on the free weekends they offer every other
month or so. But the old saying about kissing a lot of toads is
definitely true here.

match.com is, hands down, the best big dating pay site out there.

However, don't use their "service." match.com is run by knuckleheads.
Get a friend you know well and trust -- male or female, but
preferably female, since you're a guy -- and have her help you with
your profile. It should be in your own words, but it doesn't hurt to
have a friend give her her opinion and perspective on things you've
said.

My friends (male and female) and I will send each other our profile
text/links and ask for honest feedback. We are always kind, but
honest.

There also is quite a bit of etiquette involved. Many women tend to
want to talk (email) for a while (up to a few weeks) before meeting
and get all bent out of shape if you want to push the schedule faster.
I am someone who prefers to save my time and energy and meet sooner
rather than later. But the women generally call the shots in that
regard.

Good luck!

Maybe you were too pushy with the "two" women you did have contact
with.
The six month guarantee is not for a refund. It's for six additional
(free) months. You might have to wait the other five before you can
cash in on them.

I dont really get this cyber dating thing, I really dont. Online
dating, sexting, cyber sex, really?


You always here of someone abducted or murdered by online dating,
craigslist killer???

If people dont have time to meet people the way we did years ago, then
they dont need to be in a relationship.


Perhaps availing yourself to local charity work, church functions,
social gatherings, hobbies of your interest would be better.

If someone judges you on your grammar these people are not worth
having.

And of course, someone knows somebody who met someone on the internet
and they are still together....even a blind squirrel gets a nut every
once in a while.


good Day